Does your partner experience anxiety? Is your social life taking a hit because your partner has too much anxiety to even think about socializing? You want to be able to know what to do when you partner is having a panic attack, right? Partners of people with anxiety often say to me that they feel … Read more
Do you often notice your partner isn’t meeting your needs? It’s like they can never get it right. It’s infuriating because you think about others’ needs. Why can’t your partner get your needs.
You reject what they attempt to do because it’s not close to what you wanted.
Do you often notice your partner isn’t meeting your needs? It’s like they can never get it right. It’s infuriating because you think about others’ needs. Why can’t your partner get your needs. You reject what they attempt to do because it’s not close to what you wanted. WTF! I give so much and I’m the only one … Read more
I was invited by Marriage.com to write a blog post for them. Here’s my post on how the “fixer part” of us gets in the way of listening. A frequent complaint I hear from couples is that one partner isn’t listening in the way that the other partner needs or wants. A common example is … Read more
Are you angry a lot with your partner? Or is your partner telling you that you are constantly angry? Does it feel like fights go from 0 to 100 out of nowhere? Do you feel overwhelmed after a fight? Do most discussions end up in an argument? As humans, it’s normal to have a tendency … Read more
Arguments can escalate pretty quickly in romantic relationships, as many couples know. In part 1 of this blog post I discuss being aware of when your arousal level is increasing past the point that you can have a productive discussion. Couples who are experts on themselves and each other understand how to set up their … Read more
I held a Couples Workshop a week ago and something that the participants liked was learning about how our arousal systems (our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems) get involved in out- of- control relationship arguments. And what I’m talking about here are arguments during which things were said or done that were unproductive and later regretted. … Read more
A lot of us have experienced some trauma in our lives. Trauma is commonly defined as an event that left us feeling helpless, hopeless or in horror. Sometimes we think we’ve worked through it. Then we end up in a relationship. In the beginning it’s good. We are doing well on our end. But suddenly … Read more