Couples Counselling · New Westminster

Stop having the same fight.

Couples counselling in New Westminster and across BC — for partners who keep circling the same argument, feel unheard, or are rebuilding after something hard.

In Your Own Words

If this is where you and your partner are, you’re not alone.

Most couples don’t arrive in crisis. They arrive tired — of the same argument, the same silence, the same distance. Coming in together is a step toward something different.

“We keep having the same fight, over and over.”Recurring conflict
“I don’t feel heard anymore.”Disconnection
“We love each other, but we can’t seem to talk.”Communication
“Something happened, and we’re trying to come back from it.”Repair

Couples work that’s practical, not just talk.

Couples counselling is the two of you, in the room with me, working on what happens between you. We slow down the moments that go sideways, figure out what’s really driving them, and practise doing it differently — so the change holds after you leave.

My couples work draws on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Developmental Couples Therapy, two of the most well-researched approaches there are. EFT helps you understand the cycle you get stuck in; developmental work helps each of you grow in ways that make the relationship stronger. You’ll leave with real skills, not just a sense that you vented.

After 19 years of practice, I’m comfortable in hard conversations. I won’t take sides, and I won’t let one voice run the room.

What I Work With

Couples I often see.

Every relationship is its own, but these are the situations couples most often bring to me. If yours isn’t here, reach out — there’s a good chance it overlaps.

Resentment Recurring Conflict Communication Breakdown Rebuilding Trust Intimacy & Connection Neurodivergent Couples Couples with ADHD Couples with Autism Affairs & Repair After a Traumatic Event Emotional Distance Parenting Differences Life Transitions Together Empty Nest

When one or both of you is neurodivergent.

A lot of couples I see have one or both partners living with ADHD, autism, or another form of neurodivergence — sometimes diagnosed in adulthood, sometimes only just suspected. The friction usually isn’t about love. It’s about two nervous systems that process attention, time, emotion, and conversation differently, bumping into each other a hundred times a week.

This is a real focus of my practice. We name the differences without making anyone the problem, and we build ways of communicating that actually fit how each of you is wired — so you stop translating and start understanding each other.

What to expect.

01

Book together

Book online for the two of you. There’s no separate consultation call, but either of you is welcome to email a question first. Sessions are in person in New West or by secure video anywhere in BC.

02

We map the cycle

Early on we look at the pattern you keep landing in — who does what, and what each of you is really feeling underneath it. Both of you get heard. Neither of you gets blamed.

03

You practise the change

From there we work on doing it differently, in the room, where I can help. The aim is a relationship that feels safer and easier to be in — and skills you keep using on your own.

Fees & Direct Billing

Straightforward pricing.

Couples sessions come in two lengths. Many couples choose the 75-minute session, since there are two people’s perspectives to make room for.

I offer direct billing to most major BC insurers, so in many cases you won’t pay the full amount out of pocket.

Couples Counselling60 minutes · in person or virtual
$190
Extended Session75 minutes · in person or virtual
$235
Direct billingPacific Blue Cross, Sun Life, Canada Life & more
Available

Coverage varies by plan, and some insurers (occasionally Manulife) reimburse you directly rather than billing the clinic. I can’t promise direct billing will go through every time — but where it doesn’t, you’ll still be able to claim through your provider.

Common questions.

Should we start with couples or individual therapy?

If the thing you’re struggling with lives mostly between the two of you — the same argument, feeling unheard, rebuilding after something hard — couples counselling is usually the right first step. If one partner is carrying something more personal (anxiety, burnout, a recent diagnosis), individual counselling may come first. Not sure? Call or email and ask.

What if my partner is reluctant to come?

That’s common, and it’s okay. Plenty of couples start with one partner more hesitant than the other. You’re welcome to reach out with questions first. The goal of the first sessions is for both people to feel heard — not put on trial.

Do you work with neurodivergent couples?

Yes — couples where one or both partners has ADHD, autism, or other neurodivergence are a real focus of my practice. We work with how each of you is actually wired, rather than treating one person as the problem to be fixed.

Can couples counselling help after an affair?

It can. Rebuilding trust after an affair or another breach is some of the hardest work a couple does, and it takes time. I won’t promise a particular outcome, but I can offer a structured, steady process for figuring out whether and how to repair.

Are sessions in person or online?

Both. My office is at 490–555 6th Street in New Westminster (wheelchair accessible), and I also see couples by secure video anywhere in British Columbia — useful when schedules or commutes make getting to one place together difficult.

Ready when you are.

Book online any time, or reach out by phone or email with a question. In person in New Westminster or virtually across BC.