Do you often notice your partner isn’t meeting your needs? It’s like they can never get it right. It’s infuriating because you think about others’ needs. Why can’t your partner get your needs. You reject what they attempt to do because it’s not close to what you wanted. WTF! I give so much and I’m the only one … Read more
Arguments can escalate pretty quickly in romantic relationships, as many couples know. In part 1 of this blog post I discuss being aware of when your arousal level is increasing past the point that you can have a productive discussion. Couples who are experts on themselves and each other understand how to set up their … Read more
I held a Couples Workshop a week ago and something that the participants liked was learning about how our arousal systems (our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems) get involved in out- of- control relationship arguments. And what I’m talking about here are arguments during which things were said or done that were unproductive and later regretted. … Read more
A lot of us have experienced some trauma in our lives. Trauma is commonly defined as an event that left us feeling helpless, hopeless or in horror. Sometimes we think we’ve worked through it. Then we end up in a relationship. In the beginning it’s good. We are doing well on our end. But suddenly … Read more