Are you having trouble maintaining physical intimacy in your relationship? It’s normal to have seasons in a relationship where intimacy goes up or down and it can be comforting to know that. However, when those seasons go on too long members of the couple can feel stuck.

Differing preferences in frequency of sex can be a challenge. Couples often choose to avoid communicating about this or any other sex challenge for fear of not getting their needs met or contributing to a breakup.

It’s okay and normal to reach out to a counsellor to have a third party help to communicate about sensitive issues such as sex. A counsellor can help members of a couple understand their own preferences such as number of days a week they would like to be intimate and to communicate those preferences to the partner.

Leaning on a framework such as Ellyn Bader’s Developmental Couples Theory can help the couple understand that it is ok and normal to have differing preferences and that the key is being able to understand and communicate our own needs in a way we can be heard as well as staying curious about our partner’s needs.

Come in and get clear about what helps you and your partner have a satisfying sexual relationship and what gets in the way.

I see individuals and couples in person Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday in New Westminster and by phone Wednesday.

You can see my full availability at NatalieHansenCounselling.com and are welcome to book an appointment online. Alternatively, you can email me at nataliehansencounselling@gmail.com or call (604) 816-6532.

Warmly,

Natalie

Natalie Hansen, MA, RCC
Registered Clinical Counsellor
Individual and Couples Therapist
(604) 816-6532