Work is a place of resource for many people. It gives us a sense of purpose, much needed structure, brain stimulation, contact with others, and income for our needs and wants. Work can also be stressful. That’s ok too. Our systems can handle temporary stress, whether it is meeting a deadline or giving a scary … Read more
Do you work in the social services, teaching or health fields? Are you sometimes triggered by your student/patient/client? In the field of counselling it is well recognized that from time to time counsellors will be triggered by a client. Often it is because the client reminds them of someone in the counsellor’s personal life or … Read more
Does it feel like every time you start a conversation with your partner you end up fighting? Does it seem like they hear the opposite of what you are trying to get across? This happens in relationships. It’s normal. For various reasons, the longer we are with a partner the more we end up working … Read more
How’s parenting going for you these days? If you’re finding it easy that’s great. Some people find parenting comes easily to them. Others find it pretty challenging. Especially this day in age with anxiety in our kids reaching maximum levels. How do you manage your child or teen’s anxiety? Are you able to be present and not … Read more
Everyone finds relationships challenging at times. You’re not alone! But there are different ways these challenges present and also different degrees of challenge. Are you someone who feels ok when not in a relationship but as soon as you’re in it your overthinking starts up? (1) Is your overthinking more on the anxious side? For … Read more
In my practice I see individuals and couples and I also provide consultation and clinical supervision to other counsellors. This blog post is for counsellors.
If you are a counsellor or student counsellor in British Columbia you are likely aware that BC Government has recently announced its intent to regulate psychotherapy under the Health Professions Act beginning November 2027.
I remember 10 years ago training in Internal Family Systems and using it for myself and for my clients. It wasn’t a technique that was on many people’s radar. But I found it very helpful personally as well as professionally. It was great to have a positive silver lining for all the parts of us that … Read more
Do you notice that you are trying to live your life but your parents’ ideas are influencing you, even though you are an adult? Do you let your parents’ comments influence your opinion of your romantic partner? Enmeshment is a psychological term that describes a blurring, or lack of, boundaries between people. Many times it … Read more
Do you find yourself easily thrown off? If something goes wrong at work are you ruminating for days or weeks? If you don’t get a text returned do you feel so hurt that you can’t study, go to the gym or even get out of bed? Making space for feelings is important, yes. In recent … Read more